Last week while it was pouring down rain, June and I set up a planting station in our kitchen. We potted two flats of seedlings and it was absolutely way more work then it would have been sans toddler. Within about 2 minutes there was dirt everywhere, and she was way more interested in pouring dirt into piles (but to be fair, I shouldn't have expected differently!) The mistake I made was trying to "get stuff done," at the same time as have June "help." I feel like for me, what breeds frustration most as a mom to a young toddler, is trying to maintain things "I want to do" while at the same time being a "good" mom. Last year I had a massive 20X50 plot in a community garden and part of me is sad to lose that hobby this summer. I realized early in the winter that I just wasn't going to be able to do it this year - on top of it being an unrealistic ton of work with a toddler and a newborn, I'm due at the end of May which is right in the middle of planting season making it nearly impossible. I'll miss it because it was "me" time and quiet time and fun to be able to plant and watch things grow; definetely one of my faveourite hobbies. I'm making due with our backyard garden this summer - which can be fruitful (you don't need a huge plot to grow a lot of food!) so I'm trying to remind myself of this.
Anyway as we were planting, after about the third (failed) attempt at sprinkling tiny basil seeds into the seed flat, I tried to set that aside; to not care how much work we actually got done, and to just enjoy introducing June to gardening. I know there will be other years to garden. I know that including June now will help pique her interest (and willingness to help!) as she gets older. I do know it's a balance though - I don't want my kids to think that when they enter a room, everything stops and revolves around them and their activities (is it ok to say that out loud?!) but at the same time, she's so little and eager right now - it's amazing to have a "willing" partner.... even if it is just willingness to fling soil around and get her hands dirty.
So I'm working on letting go of me stuff - and embracing doing things together. I do have to say though, some of you moms make it seem so effortless! How do you get all the things done? I'm definitely still learning how to juggle the two.
These pics are from earlier this week - we already have some sprouts!! So we didn't plant an entire garden but we do have small growth and I'll take it. And to be honest, the mess was worth her squeals of: "growing!!" and "ooooooooo" that she gives me when we look every morning to see if something has sprouted.
little hands holding on so protectively!! ^^